Monday, May 24, 2010

The COST of WAITING

I mentioned before that our kids have begun sharing some of what happened to them in Ethiopia.  To say that I'm horrified is a huge understatement.  It's their story to tell, but without a doubt, it needs to be shared at some point because they represent millions that are still destitute---- and even the word destitute doesn't do their past justice.  Everything that we were led to pray for them during our wait had a specific purpose in the physical sense.  For example, when we were praying for chains to be broken, I never once envisioned that those were literal chains-- I was wrong.

When we received sad pictures of them and I was worried--- there were many well meaning remarks from friends saying, "That is just their normal.  They don't know any different."  
They were saying this to comfort me, 
but I knew that wasn't true then and for sure know it now. 
Suffering, hurting, starving, abused children KNOW that they are suffering, hurting, starving and abused with no one looking out for them or defending them.  Everyone they are supposed to be able to trust turns on them at any given moment and they live in a state of terror.
God is clear about that in His Word.  Over and over He speaks about the oppressed crying out because of their oppressors.
When they first began speaking about their life they would say, 
"Scared Mama, everything scary!  Always scared!"

I know many of you must have seen the 700  Club segment with Pat Robertson slamming the adoption of any child who comes from extreme circumstances because, "You never know what they've been through, I mean they could be brain damaged."  They have since removed his comments from the video, but you can read about it HERE.
Terry Meeuwsen (I always loved her) defends the Biblical call to care for the orphans beautifully.  As the mother of 7, 5 adopted and 2 bio--- same as me--- she is my new hero!

Pat exhorts listeners to "count the cost."
Exactly.
When Jesus tells us to count the cost in Luke 14, He begins with telling us that "anyone who does not carry his cross and follow Me cannot be my disciple.  
And sums it up with:
In the same way, any of you who does not give up everything he has cannot be my disciple.  Salt is good, but if it loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again?  It is neither for the soil nor for the manure pile; it is thrown out.
  Now, please tell me if I'm understanding this wrong, but I'm going to take Jesus at His Word and believe that He means what He says. 

Carrying our cross will bring trials as a result of commitment to Him.  We have to love the cross if we say we love Jesus.  We can't separate the two and be deceived that we are in His will.  His will is for us to be sanctified by the truth-- His Word.  John 17:17

And I am sanctification work in progress.  This is supposed to be hard.  I get that.  I'm OK with that.  I just want to be sure that I'm doing it right----that I'm not going to mess them up any more.  I could not agree more with the mom on the video who says, 
"I’m the lucky one.  I get to be their mom.  And I get to be daily rescued from my selfishness, and my impatience, and things that are just as disease-ridden in my soul.”

So, instead of counting the personal cost of obedience to what God has already commanded us to do---
why not count the cost of disobedience.
The cost of waiting to obey.
Now that scares me.


For motivation-- PLEASE watch this-----and read RADICAL by David Platt



22 comments:

Lauren said...

wow- - that video is so powerful! I'm going to show it to my brother ... he's had some questions about the "American Dream" lately and I think this would really speak to him!

I saw the 700 club clip and left a comment on the CBN web site ... Pat's words made me nauseous...

Lara said...

I'm going to avoid making snarky comments about Pat Robertson, except to say that I'm thankful more people don't agree with him.

*Given Much Mom* said...

AMEN. AMEN and AMEN. What you said about the literal chains of your precious children... sent shivers down my spine. --- COUNT THE COST of ignoring James 1:27!!! COUNT THE COST of facing Jesus one day and having nothing better to say than "I just didn't want the added stress." I HEAR YA sister and I APPLAUD you and ADMIRE the socks off you for your honesty and soul beauty. KEEP SHARING!!! (((hug)))

The B Family said...

Great post!
And my husband and I are reading Radical now. Convicting, challenging and motivating.

3 Blessings said...

Your posts always make me so happy to know you and have you as a role model. Thank you for always sharing your heart.
Hugs,
Amy

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Kim said...

AMEN!
Thank you for walking the talk!
Hope to see you (and yours) on our summer trip home!
Love & Blessings from Hong Kong,
Kim

Oatsvall Team said...

Amen ... as I sat in Maggie's hospital room and watched I was shocked ... 147 million PRICELESS gems waiting to be brought into a family ... I say COUNT THE COST when you don't take care of the orphans of the world !!!

love ya

jill coen said...

I love you Tracy!

Leigha said...

"You never know what they've been through..." Traci, what I love about you and your family is that you obeyed BECAUSE of what they've been through. God bless and hang in there!!!

Ben

The Fab 4 said...

Amen. 1,000 times, Amen. I know there have been crushingly difficult days in your home, but if Pat could look deep into the eyes of your gorgeous children, even he would "count the cost" of rescue and redemption. Always amazed by your family's faithfulness.

From a full heart... said...

Tracy, you have so beautifully put that truth into words. I am going to share what you have said, if that is ok. I could not do it justice by putting it into my own words! Thank you for speaking so lovingly and encouraging those of us on this journey to rescue His children!
Jeanine

Chuck and Anita said...

Love your blog. Thank you for sharing as much as you feel you can about your children. The "call" is out there for those who will listen! My husband and I have been feeling it strong. Thank you for sharing the clip. I am also posting it to my blog. Hearing God's people saying what needs to be said is exhilarating! Thank you again.

Tara said...

thank you for sharing, mahlet has begun to tell us about her mom and how she hated her because she hit her and her "teachers" kicked her, i hate that all that has happened to your children, we are praying they will be restored and that they will trust you guys fully, so hard, you are such a great mom, you can't mess them up with unconditional love, think we are adopting one more:)

Joe & Sarah McDaniel said...

Thanks for posting this - a very encouraging read for me today - I hope you don't mind, I posted a link to this post on my FB page.

crispy said...

Thank you for spurring us on. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you.

Carpenters said...

More people need to read this post. You are so right. It is the cost of disobedience that is so scary. God can redeem even the most desperate of situations.

Josiah is sitting on my lap and want to know where Mrs. Mihnovich is. I showed him your pictures on your header and Josiah said all the kids are his friends. He can't wait to meet them. Sending love and hugs to you all.

Stacy said...

Thank you for the post. I love reading about your family- you inspire me so much!
I posted the 700 Club clip on my blog even though what Pat said really bothered me also. I was posting it for the story- not Pat. Now I'm thinking of taking it off.

I think of your family often. My prayers go out to you and your family. Thanks for the post.
Stacy

Norma Hale said...

How awesome that you stood in the gap with your prayers and walked out the picture of obedience!! Your works are beautiful- as so your heart, Tracy.
I'm sending you an email- conversation with Rick Boleyjack yesterday. The Lord woke him at 3am to pray for your newest kids-especially James. The prayers to break things off still continues...and you are not alone fighting the enemy. To God be the glory!!! GREAT things He has done!
Love you, Norma

Nic said...

You can't know the timely-ness of this message for myself and my husband. We just were commenting at dinner tonight about our american dream, and my continual struggle in desiring that comfortable lifestyle. Sometimes I think caring for orphans might be so much easier if I had the nice big house, enough room in the finances to allow me to stay home and do things "right", and to be able to devote more time to orphan care initiatives. And it was not until I read your blog tonight, that God showed me how my unwillingness to relinquish that dream to God is inhibiting His glorious plan for us. Thank you for the cleansing (in a way painfully, but healingly so) words of this post.

P.S. - My husband has asked that I ask if it would be possible to use some of your comments in our upcoming Compassion presentation to our church. We will be speaking to our equally "comfortable" church. Again thank you so much for your words.

Jewels of My Heart said...

Amen! Beautifully written.... oh, so true. I couldn't agree more.

Chelese said...

Thank you so much for this post. I have been pondering these verses for some time now. I actually read them aloud to my husband last night! I too am terrified at the thought of not "counting the cost". I believe it is meant to prepare us, so we are strong against the attacks and not at all surprised when they come. I do not think that my King said that so we would say that "oh yes, it is much to costly to take up that sross...may I have a different one please!" There is peace in the Lord and He calls us to care for orphans, it could not possibly be more clear.

In Christ,
Chelese